Stop talking so much!
Our words and explanations often stand in the way of what is authentically true. Deeper truths are often conveyed in the unspoken. In a way they are transmitted through our bodies and nervous systems. Too many words can dilute the actual message that needs to be transmitted.
Our defensive habits and strategies to avoid vulnerability tend to cause us to easily get caught up in the rationalizing, hashing out and processing that so many couples engage in.
We need to remember that communication is 93% nonverbal.
When there is a disagreement, misunderstanding or hurt feelings, seeking for what is beneath the surface of a complaint will more likely lead to the deeper desire that is present.
Usually it's as simple as love, connection, attention or appreciation.
Next time you get caught in the whirlwind of a mental, emotional, verbal process that is going nowhere.
Feel the other.
The depth and synchronization of two bodies breathing in unison can both let another into our world, or let the other know that "I am with you" and "I am holding you."
Your eyes can speak and reveal so much, if you choose to use them as the windows into the soul that they are. The language of your body speaks through its posture, stillness and movement.
A few words sourced from the heart and chosen with deliberation, rhythm and tone of voice can have greater impact than essays on the whys and where froms of our wounds.
Creating the kind of deep relationship that can be a vehicle for healing, requires us to drop our stories and to get into our bodies. When we learn to occupy the wisdom and awareness of our nervous systems we can both penetrate and have the permeability to receive the gift of another's presence and essence.
Intimacy is an essential part of any healthy relationship, and it's something that many men struggle with. Whether it's due to a lack of understanding of how to create intimacy, or simply a lack of awareness about what it takes to foster a deep connection with another person, it's important to understand that intimacy is something that needs to be cultivated and nurtured.
One key aspect of creating intimacy is the power of communicating without words. In fact, the way we communicate with our bodies and energy is often more important than the words we speak. Our nervous system is constantly sending and receiving messages, and the quality of our presence plays a huge role in how we connect with others.
For men, it's especially important to be aware of the impact of our presence on the feminine. Women are often more attuned to subtle cues and nonverbal communication, and they respond to the quality of our presence in a deep and powerful way.
So how can we cultivate a presence that fosters intimacy and connection? One key is to be present in the moment and fully engaged with the person we're interacting with. This means setting aside distractions, such as phones and other electronic devices, and giving the other person our undivided attention.
Another key is to be aware of our energy and how it affects others. Are we closed off and guarded, or are we open and receptive? The way we hold ourselves and the energy we project can make a big difference in how we connect with others.
Finally, it's important to remember that intimacy is not just about physical touch or sexual connection. It's about creating a deep, emotional connection with another person and being able to share our thoughts, feelings, and vulnerabilities in a safe and supportive environment.
By cultivating a presence that is open, engaged, and receptive, we can create intimacy and foster deeper connections with the people we love. So if you're looking to create more intimacy in your relationships, start by focusing on the power of communicating without words and the impact of your presence on the feminine.